Advice For Boosting Your Pregnancy Mojo

Many couples find they’re standing on sexually shifting sands when transitioning from lovebirds to imminent co-parents.

Firstly there are a whole lot of factors that take sex down many, many notches in your priority tree. And lots of guys also find it hard to square up sexual desire and motherhood.

Some couples find sex rocks during pregnancy (and way to go!) but many find sex slows down and even grinds to a halt during this time.

What happens in pregnancy?

Hormones cop the blame whenever women’s libido heads south, and yet we haven’t found any scientific evidence of hormonal abnormalities that are linked to low libido.

So, if it’s not hormones, what is responsible for the lack of interest in sex during pregnancy?

Lots of non-hormonal factors can have a huge impact:

FEELING TIRED

Pregnancy and feeling tired are inextricably linked especially in the first and third trimesters. If you’re falling asleep the second your head hits the pillow, you won’t be up for much action
in the bedroom!


SORE BREASTS

Early in pregnancy your breasts can hurt just brushing your teeth. They often don’t feel sexy – and sexual experiences that were previously pleasurable can become unbearable.

NAUSEA

Feeling sick will kill off libido for most of us. Enough said!

FEELING FAT AND UNATTRACTIVE

While I think you all look utterly beautiful while pregnant, I know many women feel very unattractive with a swollen belly, blotchy skin, cankles, massive breasts and any extra weight you might have gained. All of this can make you feel embarrassed and less sexy.

FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE


Many of us suffer back or pelvic pain, especially at the end of pregnancy. Any pain can be lethal to your libido.


FEAR OF MISCARRIAGE

Many women fear that having intercourse will somehow harm their baby. There is 
no evidence for this but it’s
a niggling fear some women 
can’t shake.


OUR RELATIONSHIP

Work by a researcher
called Bancroft found that
the best predictors of sexual dissatisfaction in women, pregnant or not, weren’t anything to do with the physiological factors. It was your degree
of emotional happiness and satisfaction with your partner that held the key.

SOCIOCULTURAL FACTORS


Sexual activity may be considered taboo or even completely forbidden at certain times in some cultures, especially during your periods or pregnancy.

Your libido

So, what do you do if your libido has gone AWOL? It depends.
 If everyone is happy and not having much sex isn’t causing anyone any distress, I’d argue you don’t have to do anything.

If it’s upsetting you or your partner to the point that it’s impacting on your relationship, you might want to get it sorted.

Here’s my advice for boosting your pregnancy mojo:

Don’t wait around. Research clearly shows that desire and even arousal can come after you’ve started getting into some sort of sexual activity. You don’t have to be in the mood beforehand. You may well get turned on after you’ve started the ball rolling!

GET ENOUGH SLEEP

Being exhausted will make you want to have the entire business completed as quickly as possible so you can hit the pillow. This is not conducive to earth- shattering orgasms. You might be better off heading to bed early and having sex the next morning.

GET YOUR NAUSEA SORTED


Chat to your GP about things you can do to help ease your morning sickness.


DON’T BE HARD ON YOURSELF

If your husband finds you sexy, stop worrying about your belly and go with it!

COUNSELLING

If your partner has turned off the sex tap and you’re hurt or worried by it, try chatting to him. If sex talk is too awkward, get some help.  It’s an investment in the most important relationship in your baby’s future life, so it is worth spending some time on it.

When not to have sex during pregnancy:

Any vaginal bleeding. Get checked by your doctor first.

Ruptured membranes (waters leaking or breaking).

If your midwife or doctor has told you not to do it!